Everything is his!
He never wanted to play with his own toys, and he wanted to own others’ toys.
Because of these things, he often clashed with his children.
Others would say that he is selfish, overbearing and unwilling to play with him.
This makes you embarrassed and worried that he can’t get along with his friends.
Why is this happening?
He has not learned to be generous.
Studies have shown that before the age of 4, most children pay more attention to their interests, and it is difficult to show generosity, generosity, and enthusiasm.
It is not until the age of five that the child begins to care about the interests of others and gradually understands the meaning of taking care of others’ interests.
He needs a sense of security.
A child of this age sees what belongs to him as part of his body.
Telling him to lend things to others is like peeling off part of his body!
Therefore, he often adds “me” or “my” to people around him, for example, “my dad”, “my mom”, “my teacher”. It seems that only in this way can he feel secure.
He thought sharing was lost.
At this stage, the child has no sense of sharing. In his opinion, lending something to others means losing it.
Does this need to worry?
Although your child’s attitude may be difficult to accept, please be assured that this phenomenon is only temporary.
Understanding your needs is the first step to learning to share.
In the process of interacting with people, children will gradually learn to share.
However, from a self-centered to a socialized child, in addition to waiting for his slow growth, you also need to set an example for him.
What can you do now?
Playing with baby.
At the beginning, the baby may not know how to share with the children, you can participate in the baby’s game.
For example, if a child wants to play with his car, you can say to him: “Let’s play with the car together, baby is over here, friends are over there, I will drive you around.
“Let him see that the borrowed things will come back.
Start teaching your baby to share items that you want to return, such as brushes, building blocks, etc.
For example, say to him, “Look, you lend your brush to your friends.
I’ll give it back when you run out.
“Let him know that if things are borrowed, they will return.
In the meantime, you need to pay attention to whether the other child returns his favorite things in time.
If they do n’t pay back, or if the things they return are damaged, the baby will definitely not want to lend others something next time.
Make him outstanding, he brings happiness to others.
Forcing your child to lend things to others will make your child feel that others are more important to him than you are.
You must first understand his behavior, and some say to him: “You don’t want to give your car to friends because it is your treasure.
“Give your child a good reason not to share it with others.
Then, you guide him: “But Peng Peng wants to play with your car, and you let him play for a while, he will be very happy.
“This will guide the child to experience the feelings of others.
When he’s willing to share it, don’t tag it.If the baby is unwilling to share, don’t say that he is a “skunk” or it will be easy for him to be such a person.
When a child comes to play with a child’s toy and is damaged by someone else, or someone takes what he loves most, he will definitely be unhappy.
So if there are kids coming to play at home, you can ask your child to make some preparations.
For example, ask him if he wants to share something with his children and put it outside; if he doesn’t want to share it with others, ask him to put away.
Prevent children from being afraid to share because something they like is broken.